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Mandrogyny 52T
43 posts
10/10/2018 9:17 pm

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12/28/2018 6:22 pm

National Coming Out Day!!!

Before I get into this post, I just want to say that, I had said that my next three post might be more interesting to you guys, but I was made aware of something today that makes me want to add yet another post to my blog. So, let's just say three out of my next five blog posts. lol That said, I was pleasantly surprised with the response to my last one. Thank you guys so much!!!

Now, as I mentioned in my last post, it seems that a lot of closeted actors find it easier to coming out after playing gay on television or in movies. The post was referring to the latest one, Garrett Clayton, and I think I mention Sean Hayes, Charlie Carver and Keith Hamilton Cobb.

And I have never been a big fan of outing people, as I feel that people need to come out in their own time. They know their circumstances, the people around them, the people who matter and more importantly, themselves. As liberating as it can be to do so. there can be consequences. And they should be given the time and opportunity to prepare for those before the possibility of dealing with them occurs.

Sometimes, an acting role can be the catalyst for coming out. Sometimes, it can be in response to something they saw, felt or heard. I just wanted to call attention to some of what I thought were inspirational stories of male celebrities coming out!


We all know Anderson Cooper, that awesome silver fox news reporter and commentator who is also a member of the Vanderbilt clan. Apparently, he gave permission for Andrew Sullivan to publish an email which, paraphrasing said that by being silent about certain aspects of his personal life, he may have given some people the impression that he was ashamed of something. That was not true. He said he was gay, always has been, always will be , and was proud. It has been said that even Tim Cook, the CEO of Apple, consulted with him before coming out as gay himself. I couldn't think of a better role model!

I also love the way that Matt Bomer let the world know that he was gave. This Golden Globe winner was receiving the Steven Chase Humanitarian Award when he thanked his family, including his husband, Simon Halls, and their three . Talk about thanking your sources of strength, support and love!


I was probably the most proud and surprised by Wentworth Miller. Since I think I have one of the best "gaydars" in the world, the fact that I didn't see this one coming still gets me. But when he was asked to be a guest at a Russian film festival, he declined, stating that he couldn't , because he wouldn't feel right celebrating in a country that offer such wrongful treatment of gays and lesbians, like himself! I feel that much more in love with him after that!


I also have to admired Omar Sharif Jr. who came out in the Advocate in 2012, in an article that started, " I write this article in fear. Fear for my country. Fear for my family. Fear for myself. My parents will be shocked to read this..." If that doesn't emphasize how important it was for him to come out, nothing will!

Pan-sexual? Hell, Bisexual? Questioning? Sexually fluid? By now, we have all heard words and phrases to describe what I am going to refer to as an "open sexuality." And most people had issues with them. Bisexuals are accused of not picking one or the other. Some of the phrases, even I had to look up when I heard them. But the way I see it, whether the sex of the person truly doesn't matter, or they are still in the process of sexual discovery and exploration, the fact that they are out there and open about it makes it a step in the right direction to me.


It pissed me off to no end when punkass Aaron Carter came out as bisexual, only to rescind several months later. Turns out, it was a publicity stunt to promote his latest project. How did that work out for you, asshole? As you can tell, I'm still a bit bitter about that, and it bothers me that more people aren't. Especially when guys like Nico Tortorella, can come out as sexually fluid, and then catch all kinds of hell when he ends up marrying a woman. To me, issues, problems and a whole lot of drama comes along when people keep their sexuality a secret, especially from those who are actually involved in it.


And yes, even love, can be a strong motivator for coming out. Dan Amboyer came out in October of 2017, who said that his recent marriage to husband Eric Beric had fueled his desire to be more open about his life. And one of my top three favorite gay couples of the planet, Neil Patrick Harris & David Burtka and Lance Bass & Michael Turchin are the others, Blue Hamilton and Matt Dallas got engaged in late December of 2012. And Matt Dallas came out as the new year came in, with a fiance to boot!


Zachary Quinto came out in October of 2011, realizing after the suicide of Jamey Rodemeyer, that living a gay life without public acknowledgment of it did not make a positive contribution to the path of complete equality. God, I love that line! And Daniel Newman came out as bisexual after a conversation with a young lesbian at a homeless youth shelter where he volunteered.


In my own life, I have always been gay and out, since forever. lol Something about making a dress out of a sheet to gyrate with Tina Turner when I saw her on television as a , or drooling over the Six Million Dollar Man every Sunday at seven led me to this conclusion. It wasn't an easy road, but it has been a ride that for the most part I have enjoyed. And even on a smaller scale of publicity, I know it helped. Remember, I've always been out, but years ago, a twelve year old came out as gay to his parents, and they kicked him out. He went to his three best friends, who brought him to me. They use to come into my store at the time, and we were all cool, but we were usually fun and cool, never serious until now. To make a long story short, not only did I take the in, but I made it a point to talk to his parents, who eventually let him come home.

All I'm saying is this. Young people need idols and mentors and people they can look up to. So when you get right with yourself, and can embrace who you really are, and in your own time, consider joining those of us who said goodbye to the closet. It may not only be liberating and helpful to you, you may be able to help someone else as well.


If you think that this day doesn't matter, go back and look at how many times September and October were used in this post. Now add two, because Jake Choi. from the new comedy, "Single Parents," just came out as sexually fluid on October 2nd of this year. And September of last year, after seeing an aerial message pushing for "no" votes to legalizing same-sex marriage in Australia, actor Brandon Flynn came out!


We all have idols! Hell, I think to some degree. we all need them. Tina Turner, Patti LaBelle and Luther Vandross are my singing and lifestyle idols. At different times, Heavy D and Bea Arthur were my fashion idols. George Michael was my lyric writing idol. Justin Timberlake, Janet and Michael Jackson are my dancing idols. And Sidney Poitier, Denzel Washington and Brad Paisley are my mentors, showing me what a man should be. I'm closing this post with my sexuality idol, Max Emerson! I just wish I was as gorgeous! lol


Gyny


DandR4hands4men 54M/54M
946 posts
10/15/2018 9:13 pm

I just had to say that I love, love love this post! Keep up the great work. One of my regular blog reads, won't leave here without it!


Mandrogyny replies on 10/31/2018 4:20 am:
Thank you so much! I really appreciate that!

bjhogan 66M
1950 posts
10/31/2018 4:41 am

i lovvvvvvvvvvve this post too ! i KNOW if WE had POSITIVE ! GAY ROLE MODELS growing up in the 70's ! i WOULD have CUMMED OUT SOONER !! & not at the RIPE OL AGE of 50 !! back in the day ,, gays were treated harshly ! cumming from a large ! catholic family ! i now have several neices and nephews cumming out loud ! and proud ! they have not only been accepted ! but EMBRACED ! and as such ,,, i've been told how happier i am since cummming out myself ! not only is denial a bitch ! but unhealthy keeping it all bottled up ! it's all about gay pride now ! oh ,,,, and the SEXXX !! is better with another MAN !mmmmmmmmm CDER ?TV?TS ! mmmmmm !


Mandrogyny replies on 10/31/2018 5:40 am:
Thank you so much for your comments! We all need models to show us the way, and for our community, we won't know until we have some of our kind in the limelight, willing to set the bar and be an example of what we could be.

bjhogan 66M
1950 posts
10/31/2018 3:10 pm

soooooooo true hon ! as for your blog on latin men ! being from texas ! and mexican ! call us TEXICANS !! LOL i'm not that hung up on being called one or the other ! but as far as US latins ! spanish ! ect. being HOT BLOODED !! i know i am ! when i came out 10 years ago ,, my boyfriend called me INSATIABLE !! i don't know if it was making up for lost time ! or that gaaaay sex is sooooo much hotter now that i do not have to sneek around ! hmmm ! cum to think about it ! i have always been a horny fucker !


Mandrogyny replies on 11/5/2018 7:15 am:
I believe that is the nature of the beast, my friend! lol

Texicans? Interesting.

And in the case of your boyfriend when you came out, I'm guessing that the emphasis was on inSATiable.

bjhogan 66M
1950 posts
10/15/2019 3:28 pm

as we celebrate another NATIONAL COMING OUT DAY !! i mentioned in an EARLIER BLOG !! that i was OUTED by my then BOY FRIEND " BARKLEY " but as i had stated THEN ! i was ALREADY OUT ! in my my HEART !! now going on over 10 years as an openly GAY ! FEM ! FAG HAG !! i must also add that CUMMMING OUT is an ON GOING PROCESS !! i attended another GAY PRIDE FESTIVAL in AUSTIN ! AUG , 10 -12 th !! i always feeeel so much lovvvve at these events ! at the CONDO where i was staying ,,, i MET a GAY COUPLE & their FRIEND !! i also met 2 LESBIAN COUPLES as we layed OUT by the POOL !! and NATURALY we GRAVITATED to EACH OTHER !! me wearing my GAY PRIDE CAP !! and the guys and gurls showing PUBLIC AFFECTION !! !! we gathered at one end of the POOL while the HETEROS & KIDDOS played on the OTHER END !! while CHATTING with THE LESBIAN COUPLES !! i LEARNED that they had all been MARRIED with CHILDREN before CUMMING OUT !! while not SUPRIZED ! I AM AMAZED of HOW MANY of US QUEERS were in unhappy marriages !! only by FINDING the COURAGE to CUM OUT ! & EMBRACE our HOMOSEXUALITY !! do WE FIND HAPPINESS & PURPOSE in OUR LIVES !! i always ENJOY HEARING & SHARING our CUMMING OUT STORIES !! so in a way ! THAT is ANOTHER FORM of CUMMMING OUT ! a few weeks ago i spent a WEEKEND at a GAY CAMP GROUND !! it was my first time there and i instantly felt right at home ! THEY were having a NAKED YOGA RETREAT with about 100 GAY MEN !! now while i was married to ex wife # 2 ! we used to go to a NUDIST RESORT ! mostly a swingers ! neither of us SWAPPED ! but i was QUITE OPEN TO A 3- SOME with another man , HOW EVER SHE WAS NOT ! LOL !! and forget about another woman too ! eventualy she did figure me OUT as GAY ! from the not so SUBTLE HINTS i gave HER !! and as far as the GAY CAMPGROUND !! it is clothing optional ! and as a gaaaay nudist ! i found it quite liberating to be nude and not a woman in sight ! as i truly was able to be me ! and again ! ,,, i met ! and made new friends ! i once again several of us had been married ! so as i said ,, cummming out is on going !